‘Alhamdulillah, I’ve started paying attention to the underlying needs or questions behind my children’s behavior—whether they behave as expected or not. One of the biggest takeaways from the books we’ve read is that as parents, we must be both loving and firm. Now, when I set boundaries, I try to stay consistent and think about long-term growth rather than immediate results. Having clear parenting goals and reviewing my actions in light of them has really helped me stay grounded and consistent.  

The biggest lesson for me is to always return to why we do what we do—and to ask whether each action truly aligns with our long-term parenting goals.  I’ve become much more intentional about spending one-on-one time with each child, and I can see how much they value that connection. SubhanAllah, this simple change has already transformed my relationship with my children.

Another key strategy I’ve embraced is “firmness with kindness.” It’s a balance that brings peace and clarity to our home.  I absolutely loved all the books you selected—many of which I wouldn’t have chosen on my own! The book club helps me actually read the books instead of just adding them to my to-do list. I truly appreciate the thought and care that went into selecting the titles and the order in which we read them.

I also love how you both lead the discussions together—you each bring such valuable experience, wisdom, and insight. I can’t wait to see the lineup for 2026.   I truly appreciate the time and energy went to starting and running this book club. May Allah reward you tremendously. Jezakellahu Kairen!’

— BG